What is the best way to wrestle with a narcissist?

What is the best way to wrestle with a narcissist?
Fighting with a disordered person is like wrestling with a pig. You only get dirty and the pig enjoys it.
To win a war with a narcissist is to avoid the war. In wars, there is actually no winners. Both parties will always suffer casualties, loss of resources and loss of precious time.
The best way to win is to stay no contact. Do not react but give a response and the best response is ignore all provocations and focus on your healing.
Fighting the narcissist is just a waste of time. Invest the time to yourself rather than wasting it on the narcissist. Narcissists have a different set of values, principles and morals. They will do everything even damage themselves just to destroy you.
You can not fight a person with a disordered mind without being disordered also. So in the process you will only lose your own humanity and spirituality. Staying away from the narcissist is the same as protecting yourself and your sanity.
The warfare against the narcissist is not only something that is secular and physical. The warfare is also and mainly spiritual.
“For we wrestle not against flesh and blood, but against principalities, against powers, against the rulers of the darkness of this world, against spiritual wickedness in heavenly places.” — Ephesians 6:12 (KJ2000)
Please take note that the wrestling, in this case with the narcissist, is similar to the wrestling of the members of the one Body of Christ with the insidious, wicked and evil spiritual beings in heavenly places. If we are to analyze it, how is this possible?, Wrestling with wicked spiritual beings who are in heavenly places? Who can we win in such a situation?
All these wicked spiritual beings, the fallen angels with their leader Lucifer, have to do is to operate the old sinful nature of the narcissist which is inherently evil to make other people miserable if not destroyed. We can not fight evil with evil. We can only fight them with our new nature. What should we do then?
1. We have to be transformed through the renewing of our mind.
“And be not conformed to this world: but be transformed by the renewing of your mind, that you may prove what is that good, and acceptable, and perfect, will of God.”
— Romans 12:2 (KJ2000)
2. Put on the armour of God.
“Put on the whole armor of God, that you may be able to stand against the wiles of the devil.” — Ephesians 6:11 (KJ2000)
3. To just stand and let God fight the war between good and evil for us.
“Therefore take unto you the whole armor of God, that you may be able to withstand in the evil day, and having done all, to stand.”
— Ephesians 6:13 (KJ2000)
To stand is not to offensively engage the enemy. We just defend using the grace of God.


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